Mistakes from childhood and their impact on leadership development

Marina Melnick
2 min readJul 4, 2022

Not so long ago, I started a series of articles about women’s leadership.

We talked about:

Today’s post will be about:

  • mistakes from childhood and how they affect the process of becoming a leader as an adult;
  • theses that a child needs to hear in order not to face such situations.

I believe that it’s necessary to teach children to understand themselves, their emotions, and cause-and-effect relationships from an early age. Teach them not to be afraid of themselves and of making mistakes.

It seems to me that people don’t try to become a leader because they were blamed for their failures.

I would probably teach others to look at the situation from a different angle: okay, I climbed there and broke something — it means that the next time I need to be more careful there or to choose another place to play. But I won’t be bad because of this situation.

This course of events shows that I make conclusions and learn. I have a similar attitude to personal projects.

I go there, and if I make a mistake, I look and realize: it’s not the way to do this project, but how can I do it differently?

Or should I just leave it aside at that particular time?

Or maybe it’s not me who should do this project and I have to delegate it?

Based on my personal experience, I would teach children freedom and responsibility for their results as well as to treat life as a series of lessons!

Moreover, I would do it the same way for girls and boys.

If we speak about emotions, they are equally important for both genders, but in a different sequence.

Girls need to understand emotions, so they can lead them to logical stories. Boys act out of logic, but they also need to know their feelings, so they can understand whether they are driven by what logic gives them.

For a correct leadership decision, this tandem of logical actions and understanding of emotions is necessary — when we receive an internal response on the mental and emotional levels, we move on and start the process on the material and physical levels, where we begin to bring our decision to life.

What mistakes from childhood prevented or still prevent you from becoming a leader?

Or maybe you have something that helped?

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