I like your soul, but I don’t like your body
One of the worst phrases a woman or any human can hear.
The phrase goes straight through as a bullet. Explodes self-esteem from the inside out. Breaks you into small pieces. Scorches the heart. Returns to you like a boomerang. To hit one more time.
Even if your body has nothing wrong, even if it’s objectively fine; however, the wave of self-doubt overwhelms you.
And you can drown in it.
Working with women in personal consultations, I see many traumas and fears which prevent us from a more balanced and abundant life. So, there is always another way to overcome it.
1. Think about where, when, and how you evaluated someone on any criteria: body, mind, behavior, lifestyle… Talked about your evaluation when you weren’t asked, without thinking about the consequences?
You may say: “No, I wasn’t; I didn’t say such things!”
But how about “just” thinking about it?
You have to strain and remember; this had been happening.
2. Sincerely repent for hurting someone.
3. Forgive yourself for what you had done — you were at that stage of your development and perceived it that way.
4. Form an intention: you can restrain yourself from judging and become even better today.
5. Forgive the one who said this phrase — today, they are in that stage of development. But they are learning their life lessons and striving to become better. Perhaps, someone told them the same, violating personal boundaries. And the gist of borders has been erased. (But don’t set off to analyze others — let them handle it by themselves).
6. Deeply believe that your and their upgrading will happen.
7. Get your ass to a gym, not for body beauty, but to lower your cortisol.
If you need support in getting out of complex situations, just contact me directly and we’ll accept your challenges together.
Or you can buy a one-way ticket to spend some time the way you love most. For me, this is traveling and hiking, so I finally decided to do my Camino de Santiago and did the experiment on how new female practices prepared for the next women’s retreat work.
